The Budget Bride – tips and tricks to keeping the cost of your big day down without having to compromise on style!
FRIENDORS. This term has been used all over in the wedding industry in the past few years. What is a friendor and why would you want to employ this strategy in your budget ceremony?A friendor is the balance between a friend and a vendor. You make the decision to hire a talented (professional or amateur) friend to complete services at your wedding or event. The benefit of which usually means less cost than hiring a professional – or no cost if they agree to give the service in lieu of a wedding gift! Choose wisely, know your friendors as well as their limits. As much as you love your cousin’s cooking, and as excited as she may be to cater your wedding, be sure she can handle the task of managing a 4 course meal for a party of 200 if that is what you require before you make your final decision.
Having a friend as a vendor may allow you to include someone in significant ways for your wedding, especially if you plan on having a small ceremony and would not otherwise be sending them an invite. Of course, your friendor may complain about not being able to enjoy your wedding because they are too busy working. Be sure to be very clear about their roles and expectations – treat the relationship just as you would for any vendor.
However, since you’re deciding to make it personal, confrontations can escalate quicker than normal, and it’s easy to get uncomfortable being completely honest with them since you don’t want to hurt their feelings. The decision is a tough one —what you trade off in price ends up being bartered for trust and commitment. Also, remember that the services your friendor is offering you cannot really be compared to full cost professional options. You cannot expect a low-paid or volunteer team execute the same level of service as a professional. Make sure you both understand the expectations involved and have fun planning and collaborating together!