Well, for all you brides and brides-to-be out there, we have some new advice for you, courtesy of Jessica Simpson! Jessica just wrote an article for Glamour magazine, in which she reflects on her July wedding and her relationship with her husband, Eric.
Jessica lists 5 main “vows” she had decided to make with herself, which she feels will help her to feel her best and therefore be successful as a wife, mother, and person. I think all of us can take something from her list, especially in the midst of wedding planning stress or when facing the challenges that inevitably occur once you get hitched.
Here is Jessica’s list:
1. Remember Who You Are
“When I was younger and starting out in the music business,” Jessica reflects, “I always felt like I was being defined by other people … industry executives, fans, the media, and so on. It took a while, but now that I’m in my 30s, I’ve grown into myself and established my identity on my terms. I embrace my strengths and celebrate even the small victories. I’m certainly not perfect, but when I look in the mirror, I’m proud of the woman I see. I’m not only a mother, wife, and daughter. I’m me.”
2. Let Him Love All of You
“Let him love all of you,” is another thing she advises. “Eric has seen me at every size, and he loves me no matter what. When I got pregnant with Ace four months after having Maxwell, I was nervous about starting over again. I had come so far in learning how to balance my career, family life, and hormones, and starting over again felt overwhelming. Eric was so supportive and challenged me to accept my insecurities and focus on what truly matters. I feel stronger than ever, and Eric’s unconditional love has been a reminder of the love I should give myself.”
3. Invest in ‘Me’ Time
“We all have busy lives, but once the big day is over, it’s important to have something that you really love to do for yourself. That’s what building my business has been about for me. Whether it’s your career or a passion, find something that makes YOU happy. I sometimes second-guess spending time working … I want to be with my kids as much as possible! Then I remember how satisfying work is, and because I am fulfilled, I can offer the best version of myself to my family.”
4. Small Indulgences Make a Big Difference
“There were so many fun and special occasions leading up to the wedding that I wanted to enjoy with family and friends. I didn’t want to deprive myself or give up the foods (and cocktails!) I love in order to feel beautiful. Because of what I learned from Weight Watchers, I didn’t have to. I gave myself plenty of time to get my body where I wanted it to be, and I learned to make balanced choices in the process. The moment I put on my gown, I was proud that I had let myself celebrate along the way.”
5. Honor Your Support System
“I’m lucky to have a great group of friends, some of whom I’ve known since we were kids,” Jessica adds.”They are all unique, and their individuality inspires me daily to reach inside and learn more about my authentic self. The older I get, the more I value these friendships. My family has been by my side through the highest highs and the lowest lows. The loving support of friends and family has been the magic behind how amazing I felt on my wedding day. I believe that because I’ve nurtured and cherished these relationships, my marriage and the relationship I have with myself are strengthened daily.”
Some pretty decent advice! If only we could remember it each day, or when faced with the latest “personal crisis.” What do you think?